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What a shock

February 24th, 2009 at 10:40 pm

Ahhh... today was a difficult day.

We finally received the death certificate today and after staring at the envelope for several minutes I finally opened it up.

Cause of death was determined to be an accident. Cause of death was multiple organ failure, drug intoxication, and the underlying cause was listed as the meds she had taken that day.

It was a shock actually having that piece of paper in my hand.

This Friday my dad is coming home and we'll have to go to the bank to get me on the account and the SS office so my brother can collect my mom's SS benefits. Saturday I work so Sunday we'll be celebrating my b-day.

Since I was 19 at the time my mom died, I am assuming I cannot collect her SS benefits? Or am I wrong?

Posted in Family | 13 Comments »

13 Responses to “What a shock”

  1. whitestripe Says:
    February 24th, 2009 at 10:47 pm 1235515640
    1235515640

    did i miss something??? what happened? i thought i read most of your entries but i will have to go and read further now.

  2. cassandra Says:
    February 24th, 2009 at 10:58 pm 1235516288
    1235516288

    whitestripe, my mom died on October 31 of last year. I wrote an entry around that time.

  3. creditcardfree Says:
    February 24th, 2009 at 11:00 pm 1235516449
    1235516449

    You are still grieving and that is perfectly normal. ((hugs)) to you today.

    I think you are right about SS, but it never hurts to inquire about it.

  4. cassandra Says:
    February 24th, 2009 at 11:07 pm 1235516864
    1235516864

    Thanks creditcardfree. I am pretty sure I can't collect the benefits but I do want to be positive.

  5. cassandra Says:
    February 24th, 2009 at 11:23 pm 1235517788
    1235517788

    I had a marvelous idea and checked the social security administration website (who would have thought!). I can't collect my mom's SS but my brother can since he is under 18.

  6. whitestripe Says:
    February 25th, 2009 at 12:12 am 1235520777
    1235520777

    oh im sorry i didn't realise. *hugs*.

  7. cassandra Says:
    February 25th, 2009 at 12:20 am 1235521214
    1235521214

    Thank you, whitestripe.

  8. Apprentice Fun-Frugalist Says:
    February 25th, 2009 at 12:22 am 1235521365
    1235521365

    Sorry for your trouble...

    Best Wishes :-)

  9. gamecock43 Says:
    February 25th, 2009 at 03:04 pm 1235574249
    1235574249

    Because you are over 18 you will not get SS...or get any benefits she was getting from a company retirement plan, or beneficiary plan unless she passed it to you. Just take in everything one step at a time. Today you got the paper- the next thing to do is go to the banks, call the CC companies and cancel any services (like cell or netflix, whatever) she was getting. Then relax, enjoy your dads company and enjoy your birthday. Good luck.

  10. cassandra Says:
    February 25th, 2009 at 06:25 pm 1235586329
    1235586329

    Thanks Gamecock and Apprentice. I figured I wouldn't get any benefits but it is nice to know for sure. All of the bills are still in my mom's name so we will have to transfer them to my dad's name.

  11. nance Says:
    February 25th, 2009 at 08:17 pm 1235593076
    1235593076

    I just went through some of the same. My mom died three weeks ago. It was very easy closing her account by showing the bank the death certificate. If your mom had any credit cards in her name only, your day should not be responsible for paying those debts.
    Hang in there.

  12. Broken Arrow Says:
    February 25th, 2009 at 08:53 pm 1235595234
    1235595234

    Please take care....

  13. cassandra Says:
    February 25th, 2009 at 09:28 pm 1235597285
    1235597285

    Thanks nance and Broken Arrow. My mom didn't have any debts so at least we won't have to worry about that.

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